Girlfriends Are a Necessity

May 21, 2008 at 10:53 pm | Posted in Friends | 16 Comments

Tonight I had a date with my three main girlfriends. I have missed them so much. It has been ages since we have all been together, just the four of us.

We used to have a standing weekly date, every week without fail. We had some good times. Now new careers, distance, school, and other commitments seem to keep us from being able to see each other as much as we would like. It seems that when a few of us can get together at least one of us is traveling, or taking an exam, or just plain slammed and unable to commit.

Well, tonight, for the first time in forever we all made it. I have missed my ladies and love how no matter how long we have been away as a group we can pick back up and just be the same way we always are together. We all need a great inner-circle. I would not make it without mine. These ladies know me, challenge me, and inspire me with the the way they live their lives.

We are all on different life paths and we all came from different places. We are very diverse, but we are also the same. We have learned to respect and love each other for our uniqueness and our different perspectives. We share the same love of so many things, yet find our passions lie in many different areas. Yet, we understand each other, love each other, and lift each other up.

Do you have people that inspire you and help make you a better person? People who know what you want to say when you can’t say it? People who know when to step in and when to back off? People who encourage you to fulfill your dreams? People who care about you and your passions and take an interest in your life? People who are always there, even when they are nowhere near you? People who tell you the truth, even if it is hard to hear? People who make you want to be a better person?

I hope so. I know I couldn’t make it without mine. Love my ladies.


We Should Never Forget

April 20, 2008 at 8:59 pm | Posted in Friends, Life | 3 Comments

One of my friends remembers a day in history so very close to her heart.

Her tribute is poignant and touching.

Please go read her thoughts on the anniversary of the Columbine school shootings here.

Shopping With No Mulah

April 11, 2008 at 1:54 pm | Posted in Friends, Fun Times | 25 Comments
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Last night Rosy hosted a fabulous party consisting of a clothes swap/game night/Mexican fiesta.

This in essence is shopping with no mulah involved. We all brought clothes, accessories, bags, and shoes and did a huge Yankee swap.

And I made off with a ton!

After we divulged in enchiladas, sangria, and a sinfully delicious chocolate pizza, a la Mrs. Lilac, we proceeded to swap all of our goodies.

And here is what I scored!

A fabulous new purse.

A great calf-length sweater I have been eying on Rosy all Winter, now it is mine! Hey, it is still a little chilly and there is always next year!

A new cami compliments of Melissa, just in time for Summer!

And. . . . .

Not one. . .

Not two. . . .

But, THREE pairs of shoes!

It really does not get any better than this! And I cleaned out my closet and got rid of stuff I no longer wear.

Win, WIN!

Shout out to all my girls who supplied me with my new editions!

Special note to Mrs. Lilac: You are never allowed to bring said chocolate pizza within five feet of me ever again! I can not stop eating it!

Just for Fun Friday

April 11, 2008 at 9:20 am | Posted in 20 Something Bloggers, Blogosphere, Friends, Just for fun | 10 Comments

First of all, my good friend EP of Stylish Handwriting gave me this award.

Thanks so much EP!

So I get to bestow some awards as well. Most of these bloggers are new to me, some are people I have been reading for awhile.

So, in no particular order:

  • Jimaie Marie– I love the stories of her kids and we both have an obsessive need to meet Jim Halpert. ( I know that is not his real name!) Go check out her latest pictures of him. Hot!
  • Jaclyn from Midnight In the Sun – just found her via 20sb and she is always an insightful read.
  • 1218 Blog – she always keeps in real and I love reading her every day!
  • Katelin fom Gorgeous Footsteps In the Sand – she always makes me happy!
  • Heidi from Life In Pink – not only because it is her Birthday weekend, go wish her a Happy Birthday, but because she is all around fabulous!
  • Maxie from Break Me Off A Piece of That. If you are not reading her. Do it. Hilarious!

And because it is Friday and Just For Fun Friday, something for us all to enjoy!


Lovely Ladies

April 2, 2008 at 7:45 pm | Posted in Blogosphere, Friends | 3 Comments

I have a few blogging friends to give a shout-out to.

First of all, today was my last day of work (more on that to come) and my beautiful and glorious friend Mrs. Lilac wrote a wonderful post for me. She is an amazing woman and I am going to miss our daily chats. She is one of those people with whom you have an instant connection and we were destined to be friends. I may have to call her three times a day now to compensate. I ugly cried at her house today. Like seriously.

Also, my blogger gal friend E.P. was selected as one of the 20 Something Bloggers 2nd Blog Carnival winners. Since she won’t toot her own horn I will do it for her!  Go read her award winning post here and tell her how fabulous she is!

The First Book Club Casualty

April 1, 2008 at 6:46 pm | Posted in Books, Friends | 16 Comments

Last night we had another installment of The Best Idea. Ever. Book Club.

We read The History of Love by Nicole Krauss and I think the consensus pretty much was that we all didn’t understand the book. Really, it was pretty much that simple. Well, one of us got it, but she was new, and I don’t think we really got her, if you know what I mean.

We were all discussing how we were trying to figure out the ending when she jabs in and says, “I totally got that” with accusatory eyes. She could not however, tell us what she “got” nor could she enlighten us lowly peons or help us understand.


Perhaps I was too quick to brag on my Perfect Book Club. Seems as though last night God sent us the epitome of everything we may not have wanted.

She showed at least, but she came saying, “I read it years ago, I didn’t want to re-read it, and I didn’t bring the book.”

Well, nice to meet you. Now leave.

She was already on a bad note with us because she got snippy with one of our members via email telling her she did not want to read her next pick for the month of April.

Hello? We sent you the rule list. It says you agree to read what other people pick. When you get a chance to pick, you can pick what you want. It is about expanding your literary choices. And you are brand new. How about giving it a few months before you start getting demanding.

Maybe we should get people to sign a contract. Something to consider. Ok, maybe a scoche far.

Seriously, people, why would you come to a book club, unprepared, unread, and only contributing to the conversation with smart remarks about how you understood everything when us lowly neanderthals obviously “just didn’t get it.”

She conveniently took a phone call the moment we ended the discussion and left a very few moments later.

Very Charlotte and the “something bad happened” emergency phone call a la Sex and the City. It did not hurt our feelings.

“She won’t be back,” said Mrs. Lilac.

We can only hope.

Six Words or Less

March 31, 2008 at 9:38 pm | Posted in 20 Something Bloggers, Blogosphere, Family, Friends, Just for fun | 12 Comments
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You now have to do something you may not do often. Well, at least I don’t do it often, but that is me. You must think about nothing but yourself for the next few moments. Now think of words that describe you and only you and who you are.

Not that easy is it?

We are such complex beings. For me it was very hard to come up with just six descriptive words, I wanted more, but that is not the challenge.

I was asked by Britini to do this great little game. It is a meme to describe yourself in six words or less. I really tried to think hard on this and it kept coming back to the two same thoughts.

“Surrounded by love, given all needed.”

Obviously, I am very blessed. I have a Hubby who would literally do anything if I needed it, family who love and support me, and friends who keep me motivated and keep me laughing. I literally want for nothing. Yes, I have my bad days where the world does not seem fair, but I do have it really good. God has blessed me. I am so thankful.

What are your six descriptors?

Lessons Learned

March 30, 2008 at 8:03 pm | Posted in Church, Family, Friends, Fun Times, Music | 21 Comments

Last night me and two girlfriends went to go see one of our favorite shows, RENT. I was lucky enough to see it on Broadway during our Christmas vacation, so seeing it done by the National Tour was a must as well. With that show it does not matter if you sit in the 3rd row or the 103rd row, it is so touching and meaningful every time. There is something so amazing about seeing it in real life that keeps Rentheads all over returning again and again

Anwar Robinson of American Idol fame is currently playing Tom Collins, and he was amazing. It is so great to see different interpretations of the script as well. They actually added some descriptive dialogue. I wondered why they did that. I would imagine it would be helpful for people who just happen upon the show without any prior knowledge of the plot. But for those of us who know the entire show pretty much word for word, it caught us off guard.

The Rentheads obviously held down a ton of seats. There was a lot of mooing in the house. And it does not matter where you see this show, when Angel makes his performance for Today 4 You, it is always a huge crowd favorite. Kristin Alexander Griffith portrayed Angel and he did it very well. Props to a guy who can jump five feet down a ladder in six inch heels.

Of course it was as emotionally stirring and heartwarming as it always is. Anwar’s rendition of I’ll Cover You began my sniffles and it continued all the way through the finale. I tried to hold back because I can’t really see well when I cry, and I didn’t want to miss a second of the show, but there was no going back. Amz had to leave and get us some tissue and I am indebted to her for keeping me from leaving the performance hall without a streaked face.

For me, no one will ever compare to Anthony Rapp or Idina Menzel playing Mark and Maureen, but this cast did well. Of course the whole of the show reigned true to Jonathon Larson’s vision. It never ceases to amaze me how we all relate to such different characters, even when we see them portrayed by such different people.

For me, I will always relate to Mimi and Mark the most. Mark is the epitome of a person who longs for his own community. I have always shared his sentiment because like him, when I was away from my extended family all of my life, I chose to cling to those who I made into my adopted family. My parents were the only children who chose to leave the town in which they grew up. My cousins all grew up literally in my grandparents’ back yard. We were the grandkids who were only seen on Christmases and an occasional summer. We were never able to be there all the time and experience full time grandparents. So, like Mark, the people who I chose to be friends with became my family. The same thing happened for me when I left for college. Hundreds of miles away from family I clung to people who became important to me. Even today I am closer to my selected friends than I am to most family members. It is not just a matter of geographic location, but of allied and non-allied thought, of shared ambition, and of mutual respect. My ultimate fear is to be alone without my “family.” Like Mark, I am afraid that at the end I may be standing alone with only my digital pictures of good times past. This keeps me motivated to remain highly in touch with those I love. Any time I am in the car I call someone significant to me who is far away. I must remain connected to those I love, no matter the miles.

Mimi’s story is also something I can strangely relate to. No, I have never been (or plan to be) a junkie stripper, but her story reminds me of what I could be without a God and family and friends who have loved me and supported me throughout my life. I am so thankful to so many people who chose to teach me right from wrong, instruct me in self-respect, and at the same time allow me to choose my own path and trust me to make the right decisions. Without those things I would have most likely been just like Mimi. Alone, addicted, dying from my past and searching for someone, anyone who could love me.

The whole story reminds me that I am a very blessed person. I have never had to struggle to eat, to live, to remain healthy. I have never had to feel ostracized, hated, or ignored. I have never felt the abandonment or the fear of sickness or homelessness. I have never had to watch those I love die in a way in which I could bring them no comfort.

It also serves as a reminder to those of us of faith. One of the most gut-wrenching moments in the entire show is when the priest throws Collins out of the church and calls him an awful name because he cannot pay for Angel’s funeral. Unfortunately, this is the way the church is portrayed, though it is not inaccurate. Our churches have become a place of judgement, of standard. We choose who we let in and who we accept without looking at what service and hope we can offer those who come to us in their time of need. I think the church as a whole is so caught up in taking a stance on what they are against that they forget that they are the ones who are supposed to be there for everyone who is hurting, who is lost, who is searching. It is a reminder to those of us who want to show a God of love that we have a lot of ground to make up to a lot of people. We have so many wounds to heal, so many people still to accept and to love. If you feel ostracized by the church or by Christians in general, I implore you to find a church who will love you, lift you up, show you hope, and love you for who you are and not how you can suit up and show up on Sunday morning. The things that matter are that God is a God of love and we are all his children and He wants us all. I am sad that it took a musical to remind me of that, but it did.

RENT should open up your eyes to a whole new world of people. People who may be different from you,  believe different things, live different lives. People who all happen to be sharing this earth that God gave us. It is a reminder to love everyone, even those you may not feel you can relate to or understand them. I think it is surprising where we can find love and someone we can relate to.

“To being an us for once, instead of a them.”

That is one of my favorite lines in the whole show. We all just want to feel love, accepted, and respected. So many problems and conflicts of this world could be resolved if we could just stop seeing people as a “them” and allow them into our lives and become an “us.”

525, 600 minutes.

I only hope I am doing the best with mine.


Two Months Five Days

March 25, 2008 at 5:05 pm | Posted in Friends, Fun Times, Movies | 25 Comments

Until . . . .  

Oh, you want to watch this, I am sure.

Finally, we learn Big’s full name. 

I am obviously a Charlotte.  Who are you?

It’s a Small World After All

March 24, 2008 at 3:45 pm | Posted in Church, Friends, Music, Random Thoughts | 8 Comments
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Sometimes it is a small world after all. The song is true. The whole concept of the Six Degrees of Separation is very intriguing to me. That is the philosophy that we are all connected in someway through six “links” of people. This theory states that if I wanted to meet the Queen of England there is a person who knows a person who knows a person who knows a person up to six people who can personally introduce me to the Queen of England. I thought the world was too big for something like that. But then I watched this Dateline NBC episode where they choose six random Martina McBride fans and challenged them to get to her for a personal introduction in six people or less.

And all of them did it! It was crazy!

I had my own slight six degrees of separation/it is a very small world moment yesterday.

Hubby and I were sitting in church waiting for the service to start when I looked down toward the front and saw a guy who resembled Jimmy Fortune of The Statler Brothers. I knew it was him immediately. My dad only gets excited for two things. 1) Auburn Football and 2) The Statler Brothers. If you don’t know who the Statler Brothers are you did not have Country Music Television in the 1980’s. They were the most popular all-men ensemble of their time and we watched their videos and listened to their music all the time.

I immediately texted my dad who was at another church across town to tell him. He was excited and it took all of my self-control not to bug him for an autograph after the service. But, I didn’t even though my dad would have loved it!

Anyway, later that night I decided to youtube some of the Statler Brothers videos to show Hubby who they were and why my dad loved them so much.  The video that I remember the most vividly is the one where one of the guys gets married and all of the bridesmaids are the girlfriends of the other guys. Cute huh? I can remember what the girls wore, who was with which guy, and vaguely what they look like.

I start to watch the video OH MY GOOOOOODDD!

I recognized one of the actresses in the video! I know her personally. In college I used to be her nanny for her two little girls for years and now we go to the same church and I see her all the time.

AND SHE NEVER MENTIONED IT! Now thinking on it though, why would she?

She sang back-up for a major rock star on his world tour, won countless beauty pageants, was a cheerleader for a Super Bowl winning team for years, and was featured in the Sports Illustrated swim suit edition in her day. So why would she not mention The Statler Brothers?

It is now all in perspective. But still, it was the craziest thing, that I, as a little girl watched her in a video over and over again and years later would meet her and never know until this weekend.

I realize this is a tad bit strange, but just let me have my moment of “wow!” I realize it may not sound like a big deal, but this is a pivotal moment from my childhood which has come full circle. That is so amazing to me!

It is such a small world.

Here is the video: she is the bridesmaid who gets out of the car and is “with” the guy with the beard. If nothing else the 80’s fashions are hilarious!

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