The Unwritten Rules of Gadget Communication

March 9, 2008 at 12:41 am | Posted in Tech Gal, Thoughts | 9 Comments
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You know what irritates me? When people say they will get with you about something  specific on a specific day and then they don’t – for weeks – and it leaves you wondering. I have had this conversation with friends many times about the unwritten rules of communication and technology and it always interests me to see what other people considers dos and donts when it comes to their gadgets. I have a certain set of rules that I tend to abide by and that I expect of others when trying to communicate with me.

Cell Phone – If you call me and you want me to call you back, don’t assume that I will acknowledge the missed call signal as being a sign that I must return the phone call. No message, no call back. It is that simple. The fact is that if my phone is off it will not give me a missed call signal. I am not telepathic therefore I did not know you attempted to reach me. That being said you are not allowed to cop attitude with me for not returning a call that I did not know was made in the first place. Also, don’t call me multiple times in a row without leaving a message. That only leads me to assume that an emergency is happening and you don’t want to leave bad news on my voicemail. When I call you and you don’t answer I will assume the worst and have a panic attack until I speak to you and am convinced that you are alive and not in a situation which will place you as the lead story on the nightly news. On that note, if you call me and get the call waiting beep because I am on the other line, don’t call back over and over and over and continue to break up my conversation on the primary line if you are not going to leave a message. Same rules apply as for not leaving a message after multiple calls. I will assume something is very wrong. So when I click over to make sure you are not being dragged against your will into a van and all you can say is, “Were you on the other line?” I will not be pleased.

Email – If you tell me that you are going to email me with pertinent information, please do it and don’t wait until I have to email you to tell you that I need said information. This goes for co-workers, professors, businesses, and pretty much anyone who comes into contact with me. Also, I am going to have to ask you to stop CCing me on all unimportant information. This also goes with the “Reply to All” button, seriously stop using it so liberally people. If you are not speaking directly to me, I don’t care what your conversation is with someone else. I am not that nosey and I don’t care that much about your life. Stop cramming up my in-box, it only leads me to become more irritated with you for not taking my time into consideration.

Texting- If I text you with a specific question about something imperative, such as a meeting time, don’t wait until ten minutes before I need the information to get back with me. I can tell when you intercept the text and if you keep me waiting and I know you are aware that I am waiting on you it will put you on my bad side.

I wonder if everyone else has their own set of rules?



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  1. Your rules kind of sound like mine.

    I definitely can relate to the e-mail section. It pisses me off when people in large lecture classes e-mail the ENTIRE class to see if they can get notes because they were sick that day. Inevitably, I recieve about 10 of these a day. And it makes me want to pull my hair out.

    Lack of communication, in general, drives me crazy, so I do my best to keep in touch.

  2. I agree with everything you wrote!

    I can’t believe that people get offended when you don’t return a missed call! I think people who RETURN missed calls from people who don’t leave a message are totally anal! So that’s pretty funny.

    Business wise, I hate when people tell me they’re going to call me on a certain day at a certain time- and then they don’t. And they offer no explanation. That happens to me more often than it should. Like my time’s not valuable, too!

  3. I say Amen! to your phone and texting etiquette although I have to admit I am that nosy! I love to see what everyone else is talking about 😉

    Suburban Turmoil Blog Hopping Weekend…Virginia

  4. Hey I read your comment on Teri’s pary post just wanted to say hi. I too used to work for early intervention. I loved it! Where are you from and what kind of programs do they have there?

  5. Thanks for visiting my blog 🙂 I too love your web design..I’ll have to check out cuppycake designs (that’s what I’m hoping to win..a blog makeover!) I’m so jealous of your snow day! You and your pups look like you had lots of fun. My kids have been asking for snow all winter but I keep telling them here in middle Georgia we just don’t get it 🙂

  6. I totally agree. Although I do call back to missed calls, depending who you are. Some friends and I have the voicemail needed policy to warrant a return call, but otherwise if I’m curious as to what you wanted, I’ll throw a call back to see what’s up.

    My other problem is work communication. My boss likes post-it notes in our office. I prefer mass email messages. No matter how mundane of a message. (ie- electrician will be here at ___) Those are important messages! Cuz it’s nice to know so I can cross that off my list of stuff to do. 🙂

    Good rules!

  7. I never return missed calls if there is no message.

    If the number is my parent’s , because they travel a lot for their work and routinely I talk to them only once every week or ten days I do return the call though. If you put me on hold to take another call I will usually not hold.

    For email, I stopped using my school email for anything but school when freshman year I deleted some very important mail from professor’s – I get a lot of email and tend to have a trigger delete finger, so now I only use it for school all other mail is directed to my Gmail. It does annoy me that for three years even when asked and told directly some people would continue to send me email to my school account even after having been sent my Gmail address from my Gmail account. It is happening again in grad school. I get emails from the same few people( all in my various classes) all the time about random things – nothing having to do with school.

    I’m no much of a TM’ER. I stopped responding to most of them a long time ago in order to cut down on all the nonsensical TM’s I was getting.

  8. I’ve got some of my own rules like if I don’t answer you the first time because I’m doing something… please don’t call me back or ask me the same question. It annoys me when I don’t answer the phone or I don’t answer someone’s question and they just keep asking. It means I’m busy or don’t want to talk to you right now.

  9. EP- lack of communication drives me wild too, hence I am a Communication Therapist. I have to have it!

    Lindsay, I am so glad you stopped by, the amazing Lindsay everyone. I have been reading her for a long time! Check out her blog – she is hysterical!!!!

    Virginia, Stacia, and Tari thanks for stopping by via the party.

    Cooper- I have a bad trigger finger too. It gets me in trouble sometimes. I am trying to rehabilitate.

    Britni- I agree, I have people like that sometimes you just don’t want to answer people. Down time people means sans phone.

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